One of the most important steps in creating your Wholehearted Homeschool is having a LOVE FOR FAMILY.
Now, hear me out. I KNOW you love your family. It takes a whole lot of sacrifice to commit to homeschooling. It really does. But even the best of us lose that “loving feeling” from time to time.
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Maybe you’re struggling with a child with special needs. Maybe your child has a rebellious heart and has built up a wall between you. Maybe you’ve been up nights with a newborn and have very little left in the tank. Or maybe your husband has been working late, and you haven’t had the chance to just breathe. Whatever your struggles may be, sometimes, motherhood is just hard work. . . and filling your home with love takes a backseat to just getting things done.
If this is where you are, stop. Just stop. Take a break from homeschooling. Take a day or two, or even a couple of weeks. Take some time to regroup, Mama.
Go back to Step 1 and pray for wisdom on how to best love your husband and children. Think about your Homeschool Mission Statement (if you’ve already established one), and reflect on what you need to do right here, right now to make it happen.
Take some time to mend a broken relationship with a child, or take some time to rest and focus on what is important at this moment. There will be plenty of time for school. The relationships you have with your children are far more important in the long run, and learning will best take place in a loving and warm environment.
Having a love for family is about valuing the people in your life. It’s about seeing your children as the blessings that they are, and it’s about recognizing the importance of your role as a mother. Motherhood is a ministry, and the legacy you leave behind will affect those for generations to come. The Bible tells us that children are “Like arrows in the hands of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth.” (Psalms 127:4) You, Mama, are that warrior.
Take the time to love your family. Be intentional. Take the time to listen, and make an effort to be present, both in mind and body. As homeschool moms, we have a lot on our plate, and it’s easy to live in a distracted state with just the housework alone. Oftentimes, we also miss the fellowship with others and venture off onto online portals in order to have a second to ourselves. Those seconds, however, often linger, and it doesn’t take much for our children to then become a nuisance to our “me time.”
It isn’t that any of those things are bad. Not at all. During hours designated for homeschool, however, we must honor the time we have with our children first and foremost. If we are distracted and lose our focus, our children will do the same; and it will be that much harder to reel them back in.
As Wholehearted Homeschoolers, we need to create the rhythms and routines that will allow time for both. More on that in Step 3.
Childhood is so very fleeting, and the window for getting to know your children at this stage in life is constantly closing. There are only a few short years when bubbles are exciting and running through the sprinkler is THE best thing ever.
Seize the opportunities wherever your children are! Read great children’s literature with them. Ask them about their interests. Listen to what they say. And more than anything, enjoy them. The days are long, but the years are short. Carpediem.
If you’re looking for a little boost, click on the Family tab up at the top. There you’ll find posts that will warm your mama heart and rekindle that love for your family that is sometimes hiding behind those spilled spaghetti noodles and poopie messes.
Hold strong, Mama. Seasons come and go. Live in yours.
Here are a couple of my personal posts:
If you’re looking for inspiring books, here are some to check out.
The Love Dare for Parents
Hands Free Mama
Loving the Little Years
The Mission of Motherhood
The Ministry of Motherhood
Parenting from the Heart
In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms
The Love Dare (marriage)
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands (marriage)
Just remember–homeschooling is ultimately about relationships. May yours be ever fruitful in every way.
Be blessed, Homeschool Mama.
This post is a part of my 5-part series for Creating Your Own Wholehearted Homeschool. Click here to continue the series.